-----Original Message-----
From: Mabel Lall
[mailto:m.lall@home.com]
Sent: Thursday, June 07, 2001
10:30 AM
To: needhelp@DontSmoke.com
Subject: I want to QUIT
SMOKING
I am a 29
year married female. My husband does not smoke and in fact can't stand it.
He used to constantly bug me about smoking so one day I got mad and told him
I was going to quit. I quit alright. I quit smoking in front of him. Ever
since then I have not quit and now I have top hide to smoke. I take money
from him to buy them, I sneak off whenever I get a chance to have a quick
smoke, I live a lie because everyone in my life thinks I don't smoke. I
live in hiding and going off on quick breaks pretending I'm doing something
else. HELP! I am at the point now that I want to quit. I didn't quit
when I told him so because I wasn't ready. I enjoyed smoking. But now it
is actually becoming a chore having to have that cigarette. I need it and
have to have it any expense. Now I want to QUIT FOR ME! PLEASE HELP! My
last cigarette was yesterday at 5PM
Sincerely,
Mabel
Dear Mabel:
Many of
us set out too quit "cold turkey" only to have the turkey warm up , time
after time! To those , relatively few who have the fortitude to quit only
once because that is "the end of their smoking." Heartfelt
congratulations! But it is vitally important that those very many of us
who fail at our first "cold turkey" do not become "dead ducks"! A
thousand cigarettes are not the same as the unfortunate "one more
drag-smoke pack or occasional cigarette!" More cigarettes are not ever
justified by fewer , no matter how many the fewer are or over how long a
time they have been consumed. It is NEVER too late to QUIT or QUIT again
no matter how many times you have "quit" before or how feeble or
successful any former "quit" or "quits" were!
My
brother , Sheldon Silva , (founder of Don't Smoke.com) is a firm quit once
and never smoke again example ,he quit 11/18/1985 and hasn't had another
drag and this was his first and thus far ONLY quit , and he does have that
to be proud of.
But backsliding of ANY degree should not be taken as an excuse too believe
that smoking is our ONLY option at ANY given time! It is not usually
enough merely to "want to quit smoking"!
You probably , or should I say, "definitely" will
strongly want not to quit within exactly the same time frame as
your desire to quit !
Which goal-idea wins is not a completely simple situation , to put it
mildly! You may try and fail more than once as do very many eventually
successful quitters. You may "quit" for more than one time and your
"quits" may be longer of shorter with longer or shorter interruptions of
varying severity and duration , but , trying and "failing" is no excuse
for never trying again because
only if you try again , sooner or
later have you not yet
already failed for the foreseeable future and that priceless great
success will still be a contemporary possibility for you !
There
is great hope...., but only for those who do not give up trying to quit
or who try again later even after giving up for a while , if it is not
then too late!. It is a very well known fact that very many
people , just like you , do successfully quit for five, ten , twenty or
more years or even for life and less smoking is less smoking weather it is
five years OR life and if you ask me that is a very good thing! Those
who don't try to quit or who give up on quitting
without ever trying again stand a terrible chance of very
serious suffering , disability and early death!
As do those who spend too much time dallying with long heavy smoking
between attempted quits!
If you put off trying to quit for a
year or so you can try then "if you are still alive and healthy enough for
it even too matter!" But you can rest assured the delay will not make you
healthier and quitting will most
likely be a little harder to accomplish then than it would have been now
or circa now!
I am
not an expert but doesn't cancer often come from "humble" beginnings?
Could that last cigarette just happen to have been your last pre-cancerous
one , "provided of course you are
that lucky!"
If you are loved by someone special
and you love them back or even if you just love yourself or hate
the prospect of sharp and long personal pain and suffering you
will quit once and for all . If
you don't succeed in quitting ONCE
and for all, you will do your
"dead" level best to quit TWICE
and for all or even thrice and for all etc.! If you fail , try again but
don't forget to try to learn the need
for and importance of a redoubled effort and therefore try much
harder each and every time! Do not use "a setback" as an excuse for " a
failure" the longer and smokier
the vacation from trying too quit
the more dangerous that digression
is, a long vacation from trying hard to quit is a very big and quite
possibly deadly cop-out!
If you try and fail , learn some
new information about how and why to
quit and remind yourself constantly that you very
likely can not afford to have one more drag or smoke at all! Try to
consider your own well being and the well being of loved ones much more
respectfully the next time out! If you try having just
one drag or smoke for the "quit - road"
you are "going down a very bumpy road" and you very much need to get
the Hell back on the recently
resurfaced road to recovery as quick as you can! You don't
utterly fail until you stop trying or finish dying!
Smoke.com
